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A friend of my partner Kelly told him he was recently at a relative’s wedding reception and not in the best of moods. But his already-stretched tolerance for the festivities was strained even further when he considered that he was celebrating an institution that was denied to him, at least in our state. How...
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I suspected I was different when I first saw William Shatner shirtless in a Star Trek episode where he has to fight, gladiator-style. I was probably still in grade school. What was Gene Roddenberry thinking, subjecting prepubescent boys to such homoerotic fetish material as gladiators, military uniforms, and phallic-shaped weapons that had a “stun”...
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A few months ago, I had the pleasure of visiting New York City for the first time. Among my sightseeing destinations was Greenwich Village and the Stonewall Inn. A tiny place, as places where real history is made often are, it seemed somehow smaller than its role in the collective imagination of gay Americana,...
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I’ve lost track of how many emails I’ve received the past few weeks from retailers soliciting my business for Mother’s Day. I’m tempted to reply, “Sorry, Mom is dead,” but I know nobody reads those anyway. Oops. The Internets sure make it more convenient to make faux pas on a massive scale, don’t they?...
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Two years ago this month, I met Alfie. I had just broken up with Kelly, and needed a little rebound fling. Alfie was a bit hairy, and sometimes he snored in bed, but he was a good kisser. He had a habit of eating things that he picked up while we...
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So the latest news out of the Vatican concerns a gay prostitution ring organized by one of the pope's elite group of ceremonial ushers. According to Reuters, “among four people arrested last month in the corruption probe was Angelo Balducci, a member of an elite group called 'Gentlemen of His Holiness', ushers who are...
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“Every NOW is labeled with its date, rendering all past nows obsolete, until—later or sooner—perhaps—no, not perhaps—quite certainly: it will come.” --Christopher Isherwood, A Single Man My partner and I recently saw A Single Man, fashion designer-cum-film director Tom Ford's visually rich adaptation of the Christopher Isherwood...
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I jumped up and turned to Dr. Wolfe, who was quickly zipping up his pants. “I, uh, I was just embarking on Stage Four and helping you bond with same-sex peers,” he said with a straight face, which I realized then was the straightest thing about him. But I had enough of reparative therapy. If...
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I am officially middle-aged. I didn’t want to believe it. I resisted thinking about it for a while (years, Chris, they’re called years). But there it was, staring me in the face on my last birthday. Friends came over for a pizza party, with board games afterwards. That was my first clue: pizza and Tabu....
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