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Since coming out I have spent hundreds of hours looking through the endless stream of Internet ads.  The assumption that the woman of my dreams lives within a certain radius, within the bell curve of an age preference and is looking for me is truly a needle in a gaystack.  Yet, I find myself...
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Part of being a single lesbian in California often is experiencing the joys of having a roommate. And you rarely know what you’re going to get: “Tennifer”: During the initial interview for the roommate position she appeared within the bell curve of normal. A bit on the geek side but still sane enough...
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The last week of 6th grade my teacher, Miss Groy, presented her boyfriend to the class and informed us that she was getting married over the summer and her last name would be changing. Appalled at the thought, I turned to my friend, Rocky, and said, “She can’t get married. She is way...
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In my car I keep a roadside emergency kit, first aid kit, and 7-day survival pack for my dogs and me. (I should have been a Girl Scout but the sash would have over accentuated my “extra-medium” waistline.) I try to be prepared to the point that I also carry at least...
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The last good first date I had, Bill Clinton was in his first term. I have had other first dates since then. As first dates go they were more like interviews for the job of girlfriend. The ones that make it to the second interview are few and far between. I have...
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January ushers in countless resolutions. People make themselves promises to lose weight, watch less television, manage their budget better, finish projects, spend more time with their kids (or less time depending on the child’s level of delinquency). I am no different than the scores of other people around me. Rather than one major resolution...
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It is only the second week of December and I am already sick of hearing Christmas music. That is understandable being that I heard the first “Jingle Bells” melody way back in August. To cope with all that freaking “holly, jolly” music, I make my own lyrics and let the voices in my head...
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Most of us remember as we approached our late teens how anxious we were to learn to drive a car. The excitement, the freedom, the “I am in charge” thrill pushed us to memorize the driver’s manual and all the mechanical and operational details of a 2-ton vehicle. Classes were taught, parents and teachers...
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