Family Is A Family Value

It’s been a wild and crazy two years. It would have been wild and crazy even without my assorted misadventures. Two years ago this month our brother was electrocuted in a workplace accident, and we didn’t know if he would live, or if the brother we’d always known and loved would ever be the same...
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The other day my daughter looked at me misty-eyed and sincere. “I love you, Daddy,” she said. Now, that might not sound so strange, but when you consider that I’m a male-to-female transsexual who transitioned almost ten years ago, the word daddy can stick out like a thistle with the ability to scratch, irritate, fester and...
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The eternal mother-daughter struggle is not a stranger in my life. Eventually, I wrapped the knowledge that I am in fact my mother’s daughter in so many ways around me like a blanket. A blanket that sometimes feels more like a hot flash; a little too warm for comfort and...
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“Just stick the hook under the duck, and grab the rope,” Joe’s uncle said as he pulled up to an orange painted floating duck. “I got it!” I shouted. “Good, now pull it in, fast.” I pulled and pulled on the yellow rope as cool Oregon salt water dripped down my right arm. “Look, it’s almost...
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I hear a lot of arguments with regard to whether homosexuality is a choice or not.  To date, nobody has been able to prove with any real certainty whether it is or not.  I wonder, though, if they’re looking at it the right way.  Have researchers just studied groups of individuals who identify as...
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My daughter doesn’t like me writing for Our Big Gayborhood. She’s evinced this before, of course, refusing to read more than a sentence or two of the articles that I write, asking straight-out why I “write for that thing.” Tonight, after I’d told her that I had some writing to do, she decided to...
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Today, July 23, I turned 55 years old.  As I’ve gotten older, I’ve taken time to reflect on my life on each of my birthdays since the 40th.  I think about what I might still need to reconcile, or what regrets I may have.  And, on this birthday, I find I can only reflect...
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There was a time in my life when I could pick up and move from one place to another, often sight-unseen, without so much as batting a single carefully mascara’d eyelash. As evidenced by my very recent relocation from Massachusetts back to my Southern homeland, that is no longer the case. Perhaps it has...
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It was a chilly day in April when my partner called to tell me her news. “Are you sitting down?” Bing asked me.  I said that I was and to please stop with this teasing and get to the news. Anyone who is a parent DOES NOT want to be asked if they are sitting...
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My three sisters and I are spending Memorial Day weekend together. It seems to be going okay. These kinds of things are tricky. Two of us live here in the city. The other two live in the same small town where we all grew up. All of us have families. But, this year we...
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